Well it's been a while since I've been on here blogging. I thought I would blog twice a week or at least once for a good long time, but after I lost my Grandma, I lost my mojo and then the holidays hit. I don't think I'm letting lots of people down, but this was an exercise in communicating that I promised to myself, so I'm back. My holiday vacation is almost over and so is my blogging break.
What I want to discuss today is growth. NPR recently featured the work of Daniel Gilbert from Harvard who became curious about why we think we will be essentially the same person tomorrow or even 10 years from now. The fact is, we almost all change and more than we ever predict. For some reason, we keep thinking that although we can recognize that we have grown up, grown wiser, more patient, etc., we usually consider where we are right now to be the pinnacle of that growth and rarely predict much, if any, further growth.
So I thought about this and it is much easier to reflect and accept the changes in ourselves than predict what we will become. What I can consider however, is what I am aspiring to be and although there are lots of wishes and things I could put on a list, the essence of what I aspire to change in my future is being connected to my source and love on a daily basis; to stay grounded to my best self and avoid reacting to pointless drama.
I don't want to just believe in nonviolence, I want to be an active participant in helping others steer away from verbal and physical violence as the answer to their problems. I don't want to just give to the Brady campaign for reasonable gun laws, I want to participate in the process that will bring an end to senseless firearm deaths. I don't want to just hope that more women get involved in state and national politics, I want to participate in them getting elected. I don't think it's unreasonable to want our children to have food to eat everyday, access to health care and a safe and productive education.
I expect and plan to "grow" into these issues so when I look back in ten years, I will be different than I am today . . . and according to Daniel Gilbert, I shouldn't be surprised. What will I have to change in myself to realize these changes? I will have to say "yes" to growth opportunities and "no" to the safety of the predictable. I expect more time management discipline of myself. I pray for more compassionate responses, creativity and less mind-wandering. I expect to take my life seriously AND remember to have more fun (that one's for Gram.)
How have you changed in the last 10 years? What do you expect of yourself in the next ten?