I used to describe myself as"tenacious" and "persistent". I'd say, "what you call stubborn, I call tenacious" and I'd usually smile (inferring a wink . . . which is usually received as a smirk). Then I read Do the Work by Steven Pressfield and had to agree with his assertion that "stubborn is less lofty than tenacity" - that resonated with me. Who needs "lofty" when what the circumstance dictates is a good dose of stubbornness?
I have always known that others consider me stubborn and some of those would add "to a fault", but I've decided to own my stubbornness - it's mine, so here I go: I'M STUBBORN and PROUD OF IT! Why? Because I'm confident that I'm stubborn when it matters . . . to me.
What matters to YOU? What are you passionate enough to get stubborn about, dig-your-heels-in, don't-let-go to your core about? I'm not advocating control freak (my way or the highway) or ignorance is bliss stubborn - I'm talking about those beliefs that are worth fighting for, the ones you've examined and feel deep down in the core of your being.
What must you be stubborn about? Not lofty tenacious or pesky persistent, but down right "damn, she's stubborn!" When you recognize the issue that you must resist with all your skills and passion (hint: this usually feel like a kick to the gut), then Pressfield suggests, "We sink our junkyard-dog teeth into resistance's ass and not let go, no matter how hard he kicks."
Now that's not lofty, but I'm for it! Warning: this is NOT for the meek.
We'll discuss finesse and grace on another post (wink).
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